Too Many Things - Spoiling Our Children

When you spoil your children with material goods, where is that motivation coming from, your own inner child?
One of the greatest things about children is that they have the ability to entertain themselves for long periods of time with something as simple as a cardboard box, a container, or a set of measuring spoons. It makes you wonder why we feel the need to buy them so many toys that they won't even have time to play with them all before they grow out of them. Often, if we take the time to question our compulsion to constantly give our children new toys and clothes, and to spoil them with food that is not even good for them, we will find that we are trying to fill up the space to avoid our own difficult feelings and pain. If you feel yourself wanting to spoil your child with material possessions, take a moment and see if you can feel where your motivation is coming from.

We may be inundating our children with things they don't need out of our own desire to create a feeling of abundance that was lacking in our own childhood, or out of a need to feel liked by our children. Both of these motives tend to be unconscious, stemming from unresolved issues from our own upbringing or even our adult life. These unresolved feelings naturally come up when we find ourselves in the role of a parent, often as our child reaches the age we were when these traumas were most pronounced. Spoiling your children will not save you or make your pain disappear, only acknowledging and working on your emotional issues can do that. What our children really need us to provide for them is both a sense of safety and a sense of freedom and love of which there can never be too much. If we are able to do this well, material possessions need not take center stage.

We all want to provide our children with a good and happy life, but most of us know deep down that material possessions play a very small role. We confuse our children when we seek to make them happy through buying them things. When we do this, they take our cue that happiness comes in the form of toys and treats, rather than in the joy of being alive, surrounded by love, and free to explore the world. 


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Tree Plantation at Matru Mandir

Please join us on Saturday – January 8^th for inaugurating pooja at our new Matru Mandir premise.

Time is 11am to 12 and lunch there after 12.

Address is “Peace Home” 18062 Norwood Park, Tustin, CA 92780.

This new year we will be planting trees at Matru Mandir. Your babies can join for a tree plantation along with the Matru Mandir babies.

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One of the important aspects of spiritual development for children is to connect with the nature. Nature teaches nurturing, caring and giving in abundance. It is very important for children to connect with the nature. By being friends of trees, animals & birds they see how natural it is to offer oneself to others.

Our new “Matru Mandir” has a lot of nature. Each child will plant a tree and then take care of it. By watering the tree and seeing it grow a special bond gets created between the child and the plant.

Please RSVP if you wish to participate in the plantation so we can keep a tree for your baby. This will be a very important experience for your baby.

You can also sponsor a plant in the name of your grown up children and participate in our program.

Love & blessings,

"Matru Mandir"
temple of education with motherly care!

Email: matrumandir@liyausa.org

Tel: (949) 705 6670;