MATRUMANDIR: November 2010

Friday, November 12, 2010

Does our parenting teach appreciation to our children?

One young academically excellent person went for an interview for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; BUT in that Comapny, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never was there a year he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "no".

The director asked, " Did your father pay your school fees?". The youth answered, "my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees".

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "my mother worked as cloth cleaner." The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?"
The youth answered," never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could"

The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to
clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises
were so painful that she shuddered when his mother's hands were cleaned with water.

This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother's hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye and asked: " Can you tell what you did and learnt yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes'

The director asked, "Please tell me what you felt"

The youth said:
"Number 1, I know what appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would not be successful today.
Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship."

The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the company improved tremendously.

*The Lessons from this anecdote:*
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs,
develops *"entitlement mentality"* and always puts himself first.
He is ignorant of his parents' efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others.
These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.

If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask the question- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.
-You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.
-After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters.
-It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love and show them the correct way.
-You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parent are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will grow grey,.

*-The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate, experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others to get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have done and love them for who they are! *

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

LEARN & EARN - Invitation for "Matru Mandir" Trainer's Training Program

"What, after all, has maintained the human race on this old globe despite all the calamities of nature and all the tragic failings of mankind, if not faith in new possibilities and courage to advocate them." -Jane Addams

Dear friends,

Today when world is trembling to sustain in the present shaky economy, it is time to explore possibility of creating Social Enterprises which will create wealth.

The “MATRU MANDIR” is one such Social Enterprise which not only educates our infants to develop their 8 types of intelligence through the ISP tools but also gives an opportunity for a young person to create a home based enterprise. It is my vision that very soon we will have Infant Learning Centers in every community so little kids can have a school in his/her own neighborhood.

The advantage of such schools is that this will include best aspects of home schooling and impart the social development of the Public school environment. The informal homely atmosphere will remove the intimidating effect of huge stone buildings with artificial friendly teachers.

And this we are seeing everyday in our Matru Mandir. Our kids cry because they want to come to their Matru Mandir. They enjoy eating here with their friends listening to music and stories. And even after the school time is over they continue to play with their learning toys showing their mothers what they learnt in school today.

Friends if you wish to create similar Infant Learning Center – “Matru Mandir” at your own home and along you’re your own child include few other kids in this beautiful process of Joyful Education then please join our Matru Mandir Trainer’s training program starting from Monday November 9^th.

Eligibility criteria is you must be enthusiastic, energetic and loving being with kids – age no bar.

For more details call on 949 689 9738 or email at Matrumandir@liyausa.org

Love & blessings,

Vishakha

"Matru Mandir"
temple of motherly care!

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